Friday, May 8, 2009
Where did April Go?
It started with a trip to Tahoe. The first road trip with baby can always be a bit overwhelming. You're not sure what you will need, so you end up packing everything under the sun. It was a good weekend. But, it was a quick reality that life is not the same. And I knew it wasn't going into the situation, but it wasn't until I was in the moment that I knew how I'd feel about it. It was sort of a saying good-bye to my previous reality.
When we returned from Tahoe, Derek got the flu and was sick for a solid week. He was under quarantine at the front of the house and Maren and I were at the back of the house. I was on 24x7 every day because we didn't want the baby to get sick. It was a hard week. That weekend was Easter and we had planned to drive to the OC to spend it with my mother. I told Derek I had to go even if he was too sick. I would go without him because I wanted to be with my mom so I could have a small break. He didn't want me driving alone, so he bucked up and headed down there with me. It was a great weekend and it felt so good to be around my mom and know that Maren was in good hands as I caught up a bit on sleep.
While Derek was sick, we called the pediatrician to see what could be done to help her from catching the flu. They said the best thing for her was breast milk. So, the issue of breastfeeding resurfaced. And I was back on a mission to make it work. This began a long line of appointments with accupunturist, chiropractor, doctor etc. I had to drink terrible drinks with Chinese herbs, baking soda and water, liquid iron, dark beer. . .it goes on and on. Nothing was really helping though and my frustration and disappointment began to mount.
During this time, I also discovered the reason my belly was still quite big is because I have an umbilical hernia, which basically means my abdominal muscles are unable to come back together; therefore, my organs are falling forward. This led to more doctor appointments. My case is pretty severe and should most likley be treated with surgery, but I've decided to try to solve the problem with physical therapy before going under the knife.
These things have led to feelings of sadness and anger towards my body. I feel like I'm broken and it was been a hard struggle trying to overcome these feelings. I had a long cry last Sunday, which I think was good for me; and this week has been a much better week. I've decided I'm cutting back on the appointments. I'm letting go of breastfeeding and I'm going to focus on Maren and the two months I have with her before returning to work.
Which leads me to another focus that started at the end of April, the search for a nanny. How do ever find someone that you trust with your child? A person that, much to my sadness, will spend more hours with my child than me. We have our first interview tonight. We'll see how that goes. My guess is it is going to lead to another round of very strong emotions. I think going back to work is going to be incredibly difficult for me. But it is something that is needed for now.
The month ended with the death of my cousin Nancy. She died of a pulmonary embolism. It was sudden and very sad.
So on that note. . .I'm saying good-bye to April. I'm welcoming May with open arms. I'm pulling myself out of mode of depression over my body. And I'm just going to enjoy every moment I have with Maren.
And Happy 1st Mothers Day to Me. I know everyone that is a mother already knows this, but something indescribable changes within you when you become a mom. And as I watch this precious little being sleep next to me, I can't imagine anything more special or rewarding
Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers out there.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Adventures with Maren
Maren and I have been going on little adventures the past two weeks during the day. I have to be honest, I was terrified to go anywhere with her on my own. It required a scheduled appointment to actually get me out of the house. The first adventure was on the 19th. We had a full afternoon. We were going to my office for lunch in San Francisco and then heading to my facial appointment. I think she knew I was nervous about this because she cooperated so well. Everything was timed just right and we made it out the door on time. She was fantastic with everyone at the office and didn't make a peep while we were there. They were very impressed and I was wondering if this was really my child. :) She was a little fussy at the facial, but that was ok. She was hungry. Since that day went so well, we decided to go have lunch with my friend Megan the next day. That was also a success. She slept the entire time. After those two outings, my confidence is up and we try make it out of the house once a day.
One thing I have discovered through these adventures is my stroller is not always the best. I have the BOB stroller. On many fronts, it is fantastic; however, it's big and bulky. So, it is too big to maneuver in some places. I've decided to break down and buy another stroller to help with this situation. Our adventure yesterday was hitting the baby store to make that purchase. I also picked up a travel crib and car bottle warmer. We're headed to Tahoe this weekend and then down to Orange County the following weekend. Keep your fingers crossed that these big adventures go well.
A few photos of Maren




Sunday, March 29, 2009
Happy Birthday Derek
Derek's birthday was on Thursday, March 26th. Happy 32nd B-day baby! He worked from home and spent the day preparing our backyard for a BBQ we held on Saturday. And on Thursday night we went out for a great dinner at a local restaurant that we love. Sara watched Maren and it was really nice for the two of us to get out of the house and spend some time with one another. Thank you Sara.
--On the back yard front, we had turf installed. It is fantastic and looks great. I highly recommend it. It requires no maintenance and has a 25 year life span. It's a little pricey, but if your yard isn't gigantic, I encourage you to look into it. And we purchased patio furniture. Derek found this little local company online and it turns out the owners live in our neighborhood and have connected us with a baby-sitting coop that has been around for 40 yrs in our little community. Yeah!!--
As for the BBQ, I think everyone had a great time. I was in charge of taking pictures and typical to my usual picture taking approach, I took zero photos. It's really sad. I've got to start being better about that. My excuse though is that I had the baby in my arms and when I didn't I was either eating or getting things for people. Thankfully Derek realized I had failed with my task and he snapped a few shots. We took on the task of supplying all the food, which is how we usually handle things, but we've decided now that we have Maren, it's potluck time. Derek did the vast majority of the work and thankfully my dad and Jody were here to help him.
And today is Jody's final day in Oakland. We'll be sad to no longer have him close by, but he's doing what is right for him and will enhance to career. Good luck Jody!
Here are a few photos of the BBQ and updated shots of Maren. (I'm posting this without the photos because the battery on my camera has been dead for a few days and I keep forgetting to charge this. I wrote the blog post on Sunday and it keeps sitting here waiting for photos. I'll add the photos shortly. The battery is now charging.)
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Maren's Firsts

Friday, March 6, 2009
Hungry Baby

Today marks my final day of having Derek at home with me to help with Maren. A week ago, I wasn't sure I was prepared to handle it on my own, but today I'm feeling much more confident. Maren has had unusual infant behavior the past few weeks. She has only been sleeping about 10 hours a day. Yesterday, between the hours of 7:00 am and 9:00 pm, she slept for two hours. And she has been a bit fussy throughout the day. She hasn't lasted for more than 15 minutes in her bassinet, swing or bouncy chair, which means she has been spending most of her time in my arms. Today things are different. . . thank goodness. And what we discovered is she just hasn't been getting enough to eat.
It was a struggle getting my milk to come in after all the trauma of the labor. And now that it is in, I'm just not producing enough. The lactation consultants told me to try and keep her at my breast during the day and just supplement with formula at night. So, that's what we have been doing. But it just hasn't worked. She hasn't been gaining enough wait and she's not sleeping. I've been upset about my milk situation, but I've finally come to terms with the fact she is going to primarily be a formula baby. So, the formula has been flowing today. She was able to spend about 45 minutes in her swing and she actually asleep right now. . .few.
Thankfully she has been a good night sleeper. I think that's because she's so exhausted from not sleeping during the day. So, we'll see how she does tonight.
And I seriously need to get much better about taking pictures. I think I'm going to set a goal to take a picture a day beginning next week. I need a good one for the birth announcements.
Thursday, February 26, 2009
A Birth Story - Maren Lindgren

Maren Christine Lindgren entered the world on February 16th at 2:40 pm. She weighed 7lbs 15.5oz and was 21 inches long.
Her arrival began on Sunday the 15th around 7:00 pm. Derek and I had spent the day with Cindy and Rick after going to a quick hospital appointment because my blood pressure had been too high the past few days. Leaving the hospital, they said I wasn't dilated at all, so we assumed we still had a long road a head of us. I was in desperate need to be out of the house, so Cindy and I walked around the mall for a few hours and then hit a friends house aftwards, where I ate some very spicy chili. Two hours later, I was in labor.
Derek and I were planning to celebrate our Valentine's Day that evening. The night before I was too sick, I had a terrible cold. So, Derek started making dinner when we got home from SF. Around 7:00 I was sitting there and felt a sudden gush and thought oh my goodness, I think my water broke. And a few minutes later my mucus plug came out. So, I was pretty positive she was on her way. I called the hospital. They told me to eat dinner and then head to the hospital. Derek had made this fantastic meal and neither one of us were really able to eat it. We got down what we could and headed across the bridge into SF. It was pooring down rain.
We arrived at the hospital around 9:00 pm. We were put in our birthing room and ended up with the room with an amazing view of the city, which was great to look at the next morning. Contractions started coming pretty strong while we were in the car and just progressively picked up from there. Nicole arrived around 10:00 and began helping me through them. My plan going into this was to have a natural birth. I had two things working against me with this. First, I had a bad cold and hadn't slept well the past few nights. Second, I am not a night person at all, so doing things in the middle of the night is not easy for me. I spent my time with contractions in the tub, on an exercise ball and in the bed. As the night went on, my contractions increased in intensity and frequency. Frequency became the real problem. I had almost continual contractions with no more than 30 seconds rest in between. After about 6 hours of contractions, I couldn't take it any longer and thought if I could only sleep for a little while, maybe I can get through this. So, I opted for a pain drug that lasts for an hour. Well, I ended up with 4 more of these. Each one I took worked a little less and by the last one, it lasted for about 15 minutes. At around 3:30 am my mom arrived. She drove all the way from Orange County through the middle of the night. It was really great to have her there. Early in the morning, I finally gave in and decided to take the epidural. This allowed me to go to sleep for an hour or so and get ready to push. Derek, Nicole my mom and I all worked to push through each contraction. Things seemed to being going well and the nurse originally thought I should be able to push her out in about an hour and a half. However, unlike my contractions earlier in the evening, when I started to push my contractions started to spread out quite a bit to the point where they were almost 5 minutes apart. So, the progress we made with each push retracted during the time between contractions. After 3 hours of this, a team of doctors came in and told me I had 3 options. 1. Push for another hour and if she's not out, move to an assisted delivery. 2. Go straight to assisted delivery. 3. Go straight to a C-Section. And the head resident stated she thought it would take me another 3 hours to push her out on my own and she wouldn't let me go that long. The nurse who had been with me all morning, Heidi, had stepped out to grab some food right before the doctors came in. I really trusted her and wanted her opinion but she wasn't available. So, Derek and I agreed we would move forward with the assisted birth. As they were about to wheel me into the operating room, I had this overwhelming feeling I was making the wrong decision. And nurse Heidi walked in the door and I could see it in her eyes that she thought I could have done it without the assist. But, the decision had been made and off we went.
The operating room was overwhelming. There were about 20 people in the room, doctors and nurses. They put me on a super narrow table, I have no clue how larger people fit on this thing. Derek came it. I had a total meltdown. There was all this commotion. Nurse Heidi came over and calmed me down. She said we were going to push on the next contraction and so I did and in a matter of 3 pushes, Maren came into the world. It took about 3 minutes. She cried immediately and I knew she was ok. They brought her over to Derek and I. I was able to give her a kiss and then they took her off to the nursery and Derek went with her. Unfortunately, my placenta didn't want to come out, so I stayed in the O.R. The doctors waited 30 minutes for it and then made the decision to manually remove it. Even with the manual removal, it didn't really want to come out. So, an hour and a half after the deliver, I was finally coming out of the operating room having lost a lot of blood and feeling really bad.
But the instant I was able to hold her, I forgot about all of that and just focused on being with her. She was beautiful and super alert.
I will end my story there. Recovery week is something I'd prefer to block out of my memory. I would not have survived it without Derek and my mom.
But now I can say being a mommy is a new, amazing, challenging and wonderful experience.
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Better Late than Never
I have finally made a wedding album! We're coming upon our two year wedding anniversary in May, so I thought it was about time. We had great photographers, but the deal we cut was that we would receive digital copies of all the photos and could do what we wanted with them. It did not include them putting together the album. I was really good about framing and album creation for family, but just never really got around to it for us. I'm happy that they're finally together though. Here are two of my favorite shots. The first one, I should probably be ashamed of because no bride should be tossing back beers quite like I did that night, but I had so much doing it! I had the time of my life at our wedding and I think that photo represents it well. And the other photo is a sweet photo that I just really like.
My next task, going through all my Cooking Light Magazines, I have a lot of them, and cutting out the recipes I want to keep.
Side Note: We purchased the CRV last night. Now we own 3 cars. Hopefully the Subaru will be sold this weekend.
Monday, February 9, 2009
Am I in Labor?
Kid Mobile

Monday, February 2, 2009
Maren's Room
And this is her exploding closet. Mom has had to keep a few things in there, but I think I'm going to have to find somewhere for this stuff pretty soon.
And since I had been working at home, I decided to get all of her clothes and bedding washed. I spent a lot of time doing this. And then my mom arrived and informed me you can't use regular detergent on baby clothes, so I had to start all over again. I am finally finished. I'm sure I'm going to run into a hundred other things I start to do and discover it shouldn't be done that way; and I'll have to start all over. Oh the things I have to learn. Good thing I'm headed to a surviving the first two weeks with baby course tonight.
The Man Weekend

A few days before he left, I had a doctor appt. I was pretty confident the baby had dropped and sure enough they confirmed she had dropped and things were starting to look like she may arrive soon. So, Derek was very nervous about leaving me, but snow was not in the forecast, so I knew if anything happened, he could make it back in time.
With that being said, I was still a little nervous about being home along. I made Jody stay with me Thursday and Friday night. But, I was going to be solo on Saturday.
Saturday afternoon, I went to get my hair done and then Jody and I grabbed lunch together. While we were eating, I saw this kid that looked really familiar walk by the window and then a man that really looked like my mom's boyfriend and the next think I knew my mom, Ron and kids were standing in front of me. Let me just say a sigh of relieve came over me because I no longer had to worry about anything because my mom would be there if anything happened. It was the firs time the kids had been to SF, so I tried my best to be a good tour guide, although I didn't move very quickly. Here they are at the Golden Gate Bridge. Jody was the photographer and I took a nap in the car. It was a beautiful day in San Francisco.
Day 1 - Maternity Leave
Today is my first official day of maternity leave. What a strange feeling. I don't have to go to work until July! I can hardly believe it. For my wedding, I took one month off of work. Beyond that, I've never had more than 2 weeks off since I graduated college, which will be 10 years ago this May. This is a much needed time away from the office.
The last two weeks I've struggled a bit with being at home. My life has been on such a routine that the lack of routine really caused me to quickly lose motivation to do anything. So, my grand thoughts of updating my blog regularly went out the window. When I wasn't working or in a meeting, I was napping or watching TV. I was the ultimate couch potato. It was truly pathetic; and I've decided completely unacceptable. So, no more couch potato ways. I've got a list projects that I've wanted to complete for a while and require limited physical activity. So, between now and when the baby is born, I will have myself on a schedule to complete these tasks and will not start my morning with the Today Show, followed by View, then some news, Martha Stewart, Dr. Phil, Oprah, etc. It is disturbing how much time can go by in front on the television.
One of today's tasks is catching up on what has happened around our house over the last two weeks. So read on. . .
(Side Note: If my belly doesn't stop itching I'm not sure what I will do. It's driving me a little insane. I'm assuming it's happening because my belly is stretched beyond belief and my skin just can't take it anymore. And it looks super disgusting. My brother touched it the other day and completely freaked out. It's so hard and slick.)
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Working From Home
Why I love it:
- If I want to, I don't even have to get out of bed to work. (Which means I don't have to shower, get dressed, put on make-up or anything.)
- NO COMMUTE. . .NEED I SAY MORE.
- When I have 15 minutes of down time in between meetings or not enough time to actually accomplish a task for work, I can update my blog!
- I can sleep in, which ordinarily I wouldn't even be able to do, but I've been super tired lately.
Why I hate it:
- I've looked terrible for the last week. One day I completely forgot to brush my teeth. I hope Derek doesn't think this is my new mommy look. He may begin looking elsewhere if that is the case. :)
- I have been spoiled having breakfast and lunch prepared for me at work. Now I have to figure out what to eat and actually fix it for myself. And I need to try and make sure it's healthy. I don't like this. And it takes too much time.
- I need some people interaction! This could drive me nuts. I feel a little like a caged animal.
- I look around the house and think of all the things that need to be done, but I can't really do them. So, I add them to Derek's chore list. Derek is ready to throw my chore list out the window.
What I've learned:
- I can not be a permanent telecommuter. Maybe a day or two a week might work, but I could not do this every day, all the time. I feel like a recluse.
Monday, January 12, 2009
Information Overload

Throughout my pregnancy, I've been attending a prenatal yoga class in Oakland. And honestly, I think this is what has prepared me the most in the end. My instructor was a L&D nurse for a number of years and has now moved into practicing yoga and working with mommies and mommies to be. I really trust her. She held a 3 hr workshop on birthing yesterday that Derek and I attend. Call me crazy, but this picture reflects my take aways. And this is what will get me through this.
- We are mammals. No other mammals read books to prepare for birth. It happens naturally and the body knows what to do. Listen to your body.
- Fear is the enemy. Fear creates anxiety and when your mind feels anxious, your body responds to protect you from that which you are anxious or fearful. Do not fear birth, it will make things more difficult. Embrace what your body is doing and know that it is helping you see your baby.
- Gravity is your friend. Everything that is taking place with your body is flowing downward. Gravity will naturally help with this process. So, don't lay down out the gate. It will only slow you down.
- Remove any negative energy from the room. If someone or something doesn't feel right, change it.
People keep asking me if I'm afraid. And I'm truly not afraid. At some point in time, likely over the next 33 days, I'm going to have a baby. It will be the most intense physical and emotional experience I've had in my life. And I can't wait!
Baby Shower

Cindy made beautiful flower arrangements and her famous cupcakes, which were fantastic and I of course had to indulge in two. Krista had fun games for us to play. We had to associate a child with it's celeb daddy. I was terrible at this and it re-enforced the fact that I don't watch enough trash TV or read the gossip rags. Maybe I need to be more in touch with pop-culture--kind of a wild concept considering my job at YouTube is all about pop-culture. Maybe I'm in the wrong job. :)
Thank you to everyone that put in all the hard work to pull this off. I really appreciate it and had a wonderful time. And thank you to those that ventured up to the North Bay to share the afternoon with me.
Here are a few pics from the day. (I don't know why they're so small and I don't have the patience to fix them.)
Friday, January 2, 2009
Belly Update
And here I am on Christmas morning.
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Happy Holidays From the Lindgrens

I can't believe it has almost been a month since my last entry. I'm not doing a very good job of achieving my once a week goal at this point. I'm hoping this will improve in '09. My excuse for this is my energy level is really low and I'm back to needing to sleep a lot. So, the time I have available is being sucked up by work and then preparing things for the baby's arrival.
On that note, I did not send out Holiday cards this year, which is highly unusual for me, but I just couldn't get around to it; and then time had ran out. So, this will serve as the Lindgren Holiday greeting. We wish you a wonderful holiday season with your friends and family; and hope that '09 will bring you great joy and happiness.
So. . .what have we been up to since my last post?
- Maren and I have been growing, growing, growing. I pass people on the street and they tell me I must be due any day now; and I have to let them know we're hanging in there until February. I usually receive a shocked look at this and very frequently, especially Asian women, will tell me there is no way. The baby will come before February. So, we will see. Also, they very frequently say I'm having a boy, which at this point has caused me to start questioning the ultrasound given it has come up so often. But I feel like it's Maren that's in there and if it's not, then we'll make some last minute adjustments. :)
- Our landscaping is finished and looks great; however, we've had freakishly cold weather in the Bay Area lately, so now I'm a little paranoid the plants may die from the freezing temperatures that were not set to arrive until January. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that will not be the case.
- Maren's room is under way. I'm spent a ton of time getting all of my stuff out of the room and trying to find places to put it in our tiny little house. By some miracle, I think it's now all under control. Most of the furniture is here and all of the bedding is ready. This weekend is the weekend things really get started. Nicole has graciously volunteered to paint the room. So, I purchased everything last week and painting will begin shortly. I can't wait to see how it turns out. The colors are brown, white, lime green and pink.
- And rates are low folks, so get out there and refinance. This is always a lovely experience of digging up a ton of paperwork and preparing things, but the reward or a lower mortgage payment is what is pushing me forward on this one.
- Derek has been in nesting mode for quite a while now. He has a new project to work on every weekend. And when there isn't a project, he goes into a little bit of a panic mode thinking he must be forgetting something. This month he has finished our window seals in the kitchen, hung wood blinds, hauled all of my Christmas decor in and out of the garage for me so I could decorate, purchased and put together new dressers and shelves for our bedroom and this weekend he is patching and priming the room to be painted and re-grouting the tile on our bathroom counter top. He is quite the handy man around the house and I am thankful for that.
- Griffin has recovered fully from his Thanksgiving craziness and is back to his old self. He was able to hit the trails with his dog group again this week and I can tell he's a much happier guy because of it. He loves to get out there and just run.
- And some exciting news. . .we had dinner with Jason (the best man at our wedding) and Joe on Thursday night and they surprised us with their Christmas card announcing they were married on September 22nd. So, they made it in before prop 8 was passed. We're very happy for them and can't wait for them to have a big celebration bash. Congratulations Jason and Joe. And we have two other friends that have gotten engaged Susie (one of my bridesmaids) and Nikki. So, we're going to be spending lots of time at weddings in '09.
Happy Holidays to everyone!
Shana, Derek and Griffin
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
What A Wild Week
- Hosted a sales conference for work all week last week. I was at work until at least 7:00 every night.
- My brother and his girlfriend Sherri moved from Austin, TX, they arrived last Thursday and are staying with us until their appt is ready on the 1st.
- On Friday I was lucky to have a friend in town and her husband, Katie and Ryan, that I don't see very often because they live in Utah. We had a great dinner with them; and I really enjoyed seeing them.
- I attended a major community event for YouTube on Saturday afternoon. Go to YouTube and search for YouTube Live if you want to see the footage.
- Jody's birthday was on Saturday, we had a little celebration that evening at Little Star Pizza.
- I attended my friend Megan's bridal shower on Saturday
- I registered for my baby shower on Sunday. My great friend Ann, drove from Stockton to help me figure out everything Maren and I will need. Thank you!
- We hired a landscaper to finish our front yard project and solidified all the details on Sunday.
- My dad and Jody finished all the hardscape of the front yard on Monday before the landscaper arrived on Tuesday to begin the project.
- Griffin, my dog, started acting a little funny on Monday. He wasn't eating his food.
- On Tuesday, he started throwing up and I decided to take him to the ER that night. We were there from 8:30-12:30 pm.
- Griffin still didn't look well this morning, so my dad took him to the vet. And he is now in surgery because he ate something that is blocking his intestines. Crazy Dog!
- Oh. . .I forogt that I started going to the chiropractor 3x per week last week, so have had to do that too.
- And my mom and her boyfriend arrive tonight for Thanksgiving.
So. . .that was a snapshot of the last seven days. Isn't life suppose to slow down when you're pregnant?
And now it's Thanksgiving. I have a lot to be thankful for and I'm hoping for a relaxing weekend; and I'm looking forward to eating a lot of pie. I think I've earned it. :)
Happy Thanksgiving to all!
Sunday, November 16, 2008
7 Months Update
Friday, November 14, 2008
Griffin: "I love poop!"
This is Griffin and unfortunately our bath tub, after one of his fun filled adventures with his dog walker and the dog pack. On Tuesday, he had a little too much fun. This is one thing I will never understand about this dog. He loves poop!! And most importantly, he loves to roll in poop whenever he can find it, especially if it is a large pile of poop. So, he found a nice pile of cow poop while out with his friends and went to town rolling in it. The dog walker did his best to try and wipe he off, but he was still a total mess when I got home. His collar was covered in poo; and he smelled really bad. I think he thought he smelt like roses though. :) Needless to say, we (meaning Derek) spent the next hour scrubbing him in the tub. Our tub was a total mess; and then Derek had to proceed to thoroughly scrub the tub. This was one of his first tub scrubbing adventures; and he very quickly reminded me that I need to hurry up and hire a housekeeper because he's not doing that again. :) Griffy is nice and clean now though, thanks to his papa.